Wednesday, August 09, 2006


So it turns out R. has his office notifications set to warn him when I'm due to start PMSing.

Haven't figured out if I think this is cute or if it pisses me off, but it may explain my poor-me post of earlier today.


Blogger Candy Minx said...

Weeellll. as long as his motives are good :)

It's not nice to actually be upset about something and no one takes it seriously...but then if you are emrely just tired well.

I keep track but I might feel weird if someone else was ha ha.

I like to lounge and relax and not do anything but um, difficult of course there is always Midol with the secret ingredient of prozac.

I used to think the old ancient idea of a menstral hut was because women were sent away...and censored...I've come to believe that it was womens idea to create a menstral hut to escape the freaks who act out when she is under the weather...a sort of spa concept ha ha.

2:17 PM  
Blogger Red said...

Husband just keeps an eye on the packet of Pills on my bedside table and knows to steer clear of potentially incendiary subjects when I've only got one or two left! Then, as soon as I say to him, "We're not having a baby this month", he stops walking on eggshells.

I understand why you would feel slightly pissed off, but you've gotta look at it from his point of view. Men are just so ignorant of it all...

4:45 AM  
Blogger Annie Rhiannon said...

Think of it as cute three weeks out of four.

11:30 AM  
Blogger raknak said...

I will take the hit for men everywhere.

Can you please explain how this is offensive?

A few points to consider:

1 - You do not seem to deny that at the very least your mood changes when you have PMS (In fact, the concept of it being a named item that you refer to, and also your attribution of the "poor me" post of a day priot to this phenomenon,makes this, in my view, undeniable).

2 - Given that you live together, this change also affects R. In other words, your mood is part of R's environment.

3 - It seems reasonable to keep track of how one's environment will change in ways that affect one's life. We do this with all kinds of environmental variables...for example (and I don't mean to be reductive, but it's an important point.): time. We have clocks and watches and alarms, etc. so that we know how much longer it will be light outside (or in R's case when the next episode of Buffy will be shoing on UPN or whatever). Surfers care about waves, so they do this with tides. Astronomers care about stars and visibility of the heavens, so they do this with the moon cycles. Farmers care about when to plant and when to reap, so they do this with the seasons. R cares about you and your relationship, so he does this with your cycle (which is a proxy for your moods).

4 - One of the other comments seems to imply that R's keeping track of your cycle means that he is doing this so as not to take you seriously during your PMS time. First, I haven't seen this to be true. Regardless, if R does do that, I think that could be an issue, but an issue that is unrelated to his tracking the dates. However, I don't think the fact that he tracks it logically implies he is taking it lightly, rather, it implies the opposite: that he takes it seriously and wants to know when it happens so that he can adapt his behavior and expectations to his environment.

5:29 PM  
Blogger Minerva Jane said...

ah, raknak. your argument is, as always, flawless. R.s motive is merely to keep the peace--so that he knows if I fly off the handle, as I admit I am wont to do--he canmerely take it with a grain of salt. I was only half-joking anyway--if I'd really been angry at him I wouldn't have blogged about it. Besides, now I'll always know when I'm ovulating--if I should ever need to know such a thing. :-)

5:46 PM  
Blogger Candy Minx said...

Oops, Raknak,I didn't mean to say something rude there...about being taken seriously if we get upset about somethign then oh "its your period talking" although, I admit to hearing that before :)

I usually announce my cycle, almost to anyone ha ha but especially to the man. I really do want space and I do back out of engagemnts if I feel not up to them.

I too was just taking this with a grain of salt. Hey we all go through cycles of some sort weather work sleep etc.

2:00 PM  

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